*THE ROLE OF THE CHURCH (CCC) IN MARRIAGE*
The church of God on earth has a cogent role in marriage. This is one of reasons why we have a service dedicate to it’s initiation and proclamation in which we do one of the most sacred activity (holy communion) which we do not do in just any congregational service of CCC. This itself is a testimony that it’s a covenant and not a mere contract.
Unfortunately in CCC, Marriage has been basterdised and not given proper attention in general. Many only pay attention to the ceremonies and not the journey. In fact, its sacredness has been messed up with false doctrine of polygamy which now ravages it.
Paul revealed to us the connection between marriage and the church.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning *Christ and the church*.
Note that what Paul calls a mystery here is the spiritual revelation that exists between the *man and woman* and *Christ and Church*. That is:
*Christ = husband and Church (as a single entity)= woman.*
This is why Paul used the relationship between Christ and the church to do series of expositions to us in the 1 or 2 of his epistles about marriage (man and woman).
In fact, in the book of revelation, the author saw marriage as a representation of God’s kingdom life style.
Rev 19:9 And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the *marriage supper* of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.
Rev 21:2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a *bride adorned for her husband.*
Rev 21:9 And there came unto me one of the seven angels which had the seven vials full of the seven last plagues, and talked with me, saying, Come hither, I will shew thee the *bride, the Lamb’s wife.*
Jesus also used it in some of his parables while on earth. E.g. the parables of 10 Virgin. In fact, the rapture is simply talking about marriage.
The church plays an overseer (monitoring and counselling) role in a marriage. God is the initiator. This is one of the reasons why the service in CCC has 7 candles on the altar lampstand.
A. Topmost candle= God (he is the initiator)
B. Next 2 candles on left and right (husband and wife)
C. Next 2 candles on left and right (fathers in-law of husband and wife)
D. Next 2 candles on left and right (mothers-in-law of husband and wife)
Before the solemnization starts, the parents of the bride will handover the bride to the shepherd (representative of the church), who will inturn hand her over to the groom’s parents. By this, the church plays central role of an intermediarybetween the 2 families just like Jesus Christ did for us and God.
The church is supposed to be a unifier among the couple and the 2 families. Why? This is because only the church is humanly and physically closer to the couple. The church sees the couple at every service unlike the 2 families who probably see them face to face on few occassions.
UNFORTUNATELY in CCC, this is not well understood or comprehended and this has led to the poor management of marital life styles (even among the clergy), broken homes, separation, single motherhood, polygamy etc by some.
The church has the responsibility to spiritually develop and grow a couple in the Lord, as well as rally round with the invitation of family members if need be to coordinate the settling of matters,
But unfortunately, some homes in CCC have been broken simply because of some singular acts of CCC members and local parishes; evil counselling, wrong/false prophecies.
Evangelist Dr Jaiyeola Gbolahan Temitope